I understand you feel that way, but I feel this way: the benefits of I-language and communicating perspective during conflict

Shane L. Rogers, Jill Howieson, Casey Neame

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Abstract

Using hypothetical scenarios, we provided participants with potential opening statements to a conflict discussion that varied on I/you language and communicated perspective. Participants rated the likelihood that the recipient of the statement would react in a defensive manner. Using I-language and communicating perspective were both found to reduce perceptions of hostility. Statements that communicated both self- and other-perspective using I-language (e.g. understand why you might feel that way, but I feel this way, so I think the situation is unfair') were rated as the best strategy to open a conflict discussion. Simple acts of initial language use can reduce the chances that conflict discussion will descend into a downward spiral of hostility.

Original languageEnglish
Article number4831
Number of pages13
JournalPEERJ
Volume6
DOIs
Publication statusPublished - 18 May 2018

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I understand you feel that way, but I feel this way : the benefits of I-language and communicating perspective during conflict. / Rogers, Shane L.; Howieson, Jill; Neame, Casey.

In: PEERJ, Vol. 6, 4831, 18.05.2018.

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