Recently, the application of memristors in chaotic systems has been extensively studied. Unfortunately, there is limited literature on the introduction of discrete memristors into chaotic maps, especially into non-classical multidimensional maps. For this reason, this paper establishes a new three-dimensional parabolic chaotic map model; in order to improve the complexity and randomness of the map, it is coupled with a square-charge-controlled discrete memristor to design a new four-dimensional memristive hyperchaotic map. Firstly, the stability of the two maps is discussed. And their dynamical properties are compared using Lyapunov exponential spectra and bifurcation diagrams. Then, the phase diagram and iteration sequence of the 4D memristive hyperchaotic map are obtained. Meanwhile, we investigate the hyperchaotic states, the transient chaos, state transfer and attractor coexistence phenomena of the four-dimensional memristive map. In particular, the special state transfer phenomenon of switching from a periodic attractor to a quasi-periodic attractor and the special coexistence phenomenon of a quasi-periodic attractor coexisting with a quasi-periodic attractor around fixed points are found, which have not been observed in other systems. Finally, the phase-track diagrams and iterative sequence diagrams of the four-dimensional memristive map are verified on a digital experimental platform, revealing its potential for practical applications.